16 Ramadan 1430h - Half way, already!

Suhoor: A banana, peanut butter on toast, dates and warm milk.
Iftaar: Warm milk with honey and dates.
Dinner: Curry puffs, rice and potato chicken curry and aubergine chutney with cucumber, steamed baby corn.

I think they soaked the corn in sugar water before bundling them up for sale! Mashaallah it was so sooo sweet. Asda was selling two sweet corns for half a pound, it is cheap. Usually it would be a pound or more.

Oh yes, I did not go for the bar birthday bash yesterday, I felt better, also because it was 30 min by bus and the way back in the night isn't safe for a lady alone. Actually, instead we had dinner together at home (Rosa, Aisha, Hualin and I).

Made curry puffs today, oh i missed it so much, alhamdulillah it turned out even better than the ones i made the last time, as testified by a housemate who said it was comparable to a restaurants! Wow, I shall one day be a chef if this bioscience route does not pay off.

What did I learn today? hmmm... that half of ramadan has passed and this holy month is fast ending. I feel sad that it always passes too fast, it's like when one gets used to the fast and the generousity of the blessed month then it passes... I suppose it also teaches me to continue sharing and giving as a sign of continual charity not only to be done in the holy month but all through the year.

I spoke to ammi today. It was a surprise. Jaanu comes up with surprises like that. I love him, mashallah, may Allah always bless them all.

I was speaking to one of my housemates today when I asked her the difference between when she was engaged and now when she is married. She explained to me something that I saw mum go through many years ago. She warned that it is dangerous to live with the parents (in-laws or parents) because usually the patience of the wife is usually tested, eventally after about 10 years she exploads and then tension comes between the spouses. I do not ever want that to happen in my family, inshallah. She mentioned that most time when we have children and when we try to discipline them, and if we are living with parents they usually defend the children because they think we are too hard on them but we think that our parents usually spoil our children. Ironically i recalled an occasion when mum was in the process of disciplining me when akung intervened... yes, it is true, it does happen.

Next she mentions something that made me think... 1) husbands hopes and wishes that we treat his parents like our own but when it comes to our parents, it is usually not vice versa. 2) upon getting married, we need to educate our husbands to treat our parents like how he treats his own otherwise he will overlook his responsibilities in difficult times. 3) All men are childish therefore the wife will always have to be the mature partner in coping with relationships be it between themselves or parents.

ahmmmm... food for thought.... indeed.

But I think in a muslim family these things should not come in the way, if they do then the correct muslim values are not being practised and this can cause friction between relations and this is not what Islam preaches.